If it hadn't been my child that we were cremating I would have found the day singularly beautiful. So many wonderful people, +/-500 at the hockey pitch, so many beautiful words and songs, so much love and support.
We were carried on a raft of support built by our family and friends. We were able to give ourselves over to celebrating Kay's life knowing that we had a safety cushion of care around us.
I don't have words enough to say how grateful we are to everyone whom came, to everyone who sent their wishes, to everyone who supported us, to everyone who hugged and held us.
And now it's a new day, the day after, a day when we have to starting thinking about how to remodel our lives around the gaping hole in our family.
Marion's still sleeping, holding Mickey in a vice-like grip, not wanting to wake up and face the day, I suspect. And I too am terrified by what comes next.
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Dear Rob and Marion,
ReplyDeleteMy heart broke when you came in the aula...as many with me, we all felt so much pain for your loss. But it was the most special way to celebrate Kay's life. It did here justice.(if I'm writing it correctly).The words said, the songs played, the balloons, the airplane, it was so beautiful. And now, a new day, where things will never be the same.
I hope that the net of people around you, will take some of the pain away, so that you can face this new day.
I'll send you strenght to carry one. Give my love to Marion.
My heart is with you all.
Marie-Cecile
Lieve Rob, Marion, Nattie en Lauren,
ReplyDeleteIk wil eigenlijk iets zeggen wat jullie kan helpen, maar de woorden zijn er even niet. Gisteren was mooi, maar het had niet zo mogen zijn. Weet dat Kay altijd bij jullie en in jullie zit.
Liefs,
Natascha
I spent all yesterday thinking about you all.
ReplyDeleteI keep looking at Kay's picture and am unable to comprehend what has happened to you and the family as a whole.
Be sure that we are here for you whenever you need us now and in the future.
Lesley x
Het was inderdaad prachtig. De foto's met bloemen bij de ingang van de school waren schitterend, de dienst was heel persoonlijk en jouw speech, man .. zo knap.
ReplyDeleteOp het hockey veld was ook indrukwekkend. Ik vergat bijna de ballon los te laten toen ik naar het vliegtuig zat te kijken.
Jullie hebben enorm goed voor Kay gezorgd toen ze ziek was en jullie hebben in dezelfde stijl afscheid genomen.
Ontzettend veel sterkte met jullie leven weer op de rit te krijgen. Blijf leunen op familie, vrienden en wie dan ook.
Peter en Ilse
Dear Rob and Marion,
ReplyDeleteWe were yesterday on the ceremony in scool and at the hockey pitch. It was a day we will not soon forget. The music, the speeches the cermonies, it was a wonderful and good goodbye feeling for Kay. (I'm sorry i am not so good at putting my feelings in English on paper).
Also the rest of the day we were thinking of you and your family. Coming into your house, knowinbg it is now definitively over. You had made the arragnments and ceremony and it gives you something to do. Now that is all gone and you probably feel an emptyness with what you don't know what to do. The world is going on, but your world stands still. What are we worrying about... It doesne't mather, Kay is not here any longer.
We are thinking of you (Yes even in the middle of the night are our first thoughts for you and your familiy).
And for us it is easily saying things, our 10-year old puberal daughter is still alive and we can hug her and so on. And you not. Life is not fair!
We wish you and Marion and the kids the force to get through and to make something of your life. You'll nevere forget Kay, that's impossible, but carry her with you in your mind and thoughts. So will we.
Hugs,
Kees and Bianca Kotterink
Het was inderdaad een prachtige dag. Ik heb zoveel respect voor jullie, hoe jullie alles zo geweldig hebben geregeld de afgelopen dagen. Ik hoop dat jullie nu rust kunnen vinden, om dit alles een plekje te kunnen geven en op krachten te komen.
ReplyDeleteLiefs, ook aan Marion, Lauren en Nattie,
Judith
Saturday was such a strangely beautiful day and we were honoured to be there, sharing in something so intimate yet shared by so many.
ReplyDeleteThe support hasn't gone away for you Rob and Marion. Now that we are all back home, we are still with you in spirit, still here at the end of a phone line, or on the computer. Still sending our love and praying you will have the strength to move into a different gear, living life with a different perspective, but in the deep-rooted knowledge that all the people who appeared on Saturday are still there for you.
Much love - and thank you for allowing us to share.
Linda and Emma xx
Dear Robert and Marion, we cannot get you out of our thoughts. We are in awe of the magnificent outpouring of Love that emanated from all the wonderful people throughout the day. Here we have many cards which express sympathy for the sadness of the whole family. As we said before Kay is always with us, here in our hearts and memories. Love Mum and Dad.
ReplyDeleteRob
ReplyDeleteWe couldn't be with you on Saturday but you were in our thoughts. I went down to Bristol to pick up Jamie's bike and then see Paul at Cardiff University. On the way back through the Wye valley it was a beautiful sunny afternoon and I was thinking of you and hoping that the support of all those around you would help the pain of Kay's departure.
Of course it won't make the pain go away but perhaps taking one day at a time, with every-one's support, and some happy memories of Kay when she was well, things will slowly get a little more manageable.
Love Alistair, Sue and Emma.